Ok guys, today is a bit of a mixed post! Some fashion and some random thoughts – you’ve been warned 🙂
First, sharing an outfit with some pieces that you can wear all year. I FINALLY picked up this hat after looking at it for months! And I’m so glad I did. It’s perfect to throw on and I love how much it covers my face.
Hat: Brixton // Tank: Madewell // Jeans: Madewell
Hat: Brixton // Tank: Madewell // Jeans: Madewell
This Madewell tank is also a piece that is seasonless. You can easily wear it in the summer (obviously) but can throw on a sweater or camo jacket for cooler temps. It’s a perfect base layer that can be a wardrobe workhorse!
And of course my favorite jeans. They just barely fit right now – I’ve been doing the rubber band trick to wear them to work. And I just picked up a bellaband to hopefully wear them more! I’m really avoiding maternity clothes for as long as possible.
Ok so now to the chatty part of today’s post – you’ve been warned!
Do you ever feel like people only want to talk about bad things? How horrible an experience was, how miserable their lives are, and how they hate everything? Sure I’m exaggerating a bit but I’m confident you know what I mean!
I know myself and I know that in the past I’ve been around constantly negative people, and that makes me negative. So now I really try to avoid people who are constantly negative or complaining. (People who complain about things they can change and DON’T are people I can’t be around anymore) So my close friends are all people who are positive – obviously bad things do happen and you can share that! – and don’t drag everyone down.
When I got engaged, I was shocked how people told me I was making a mistake and getting married was a horrible decision. Who would say that to someone two days after they got engaged? (Yes this happened haha) And even better – these people were married! That is such a clear memory in my mind – I can see my desk and where I was sitting – and a really crystal clear example of people being negative.
Fast forward to now – people ONLY want to share horror stories of pregnancy. When I say I didn’t have horrible, life ruining, devastating morning sickness, people are downright snippy. I have received a lot of “well aren’t you lucky” and eye rolls from people – right to my face. It’s honestly comical and reflects more on them than it does on me!
Luckily I have some close friends who either have small kids or are pregnant who don’t have this negativity complex. I’ve had a few friends here in Lexington who I can be honestly excited with and feel that pregnancy should be an exciting time to be happy – not a time to drag everyone through the mud. Sure there are not-so-fun parts and I know I’ve been very lucky to not be super sick. But it’s a super exciting time and I shouldn’t have to feel like if it’s not horrible it isn’t real! So sorry if I’m happy, but that’s my choice!
Life isn’t a race to the bottom to see who can have the most horrendous experiences.
We don’t all have to one up each other and shut down positive experiences. (Or if you want to do that, find people who do and avoid those of us who would like to stay happy!)
You become like the people you spend time with – so pick your circle wisely! If someone makes you unhappy every time you’re together, make a difference choice. I’ve left friend groups because the people were always one-upping each other and couldn’t actually talk about our lives. And you know what – the first time I declined coming to something, they never asked again! (And I felt super relieved not to spend time with them – trust your gut!!!)
This was all over the place and I hope it made a little bit of sense 🙂 Basically, I would love to see positivity in relationships – and for us to celebrate milestones instead of drag people down.
