Hey friends! Happy Friday!
Today I felt like writing down some thoughts on motherhood…a true blog post!
My swimsuit – probably could have ordered a size down, it’s a bit big but whatever! // My hat // Toddler swimsuit – my daughter has worn this all summer and its the best!
My swimsuit – probably could have ordered a size down, it’s a bit big but whatever! // My hat // Toddler swimsuit – my daughter has worn this all summer and its the best!
Today I want to reflect a bit on motherhood because 2020 has been uniquely challenging and rewarding. I get asked a lot how I like being a mom (by friends without kids!) so I thought I’d share a bit here as well.
I love having a buddy all the time – someone to walk with, play with, and have around! With the loneliness of 2020 and COVID, I’ve had someone around daily, even if they don’t understand everything I’m saying. But now I’m pretty confident she gets *everything* I say and do, and she mimics and copies in the cutest way.
I love seeing her learn and grow so so quickly. Kids are sponges and learn so fast! She will pick things up after trying them once, hearing them once, or seeing us demonstrate one time. It’s crazy how fast they process and understand. We showed her how to twirl the other day and now she does it for fun! Oh and she loves to walk backwards – so adorable.
One thing I mentioned to a few friends this week is how motherhood has made me calmer. Isn’t that weird?! It’s actually the opposite of what I expected to happen, but here we are. I think becoming a mom made me realize what does and doesn’t matter. Things that don’t matter: other opinions on parenting, being “busy” for the sake of busy, bad friends, judgment, peer pressure, mom shaming – you get my gist. Things that matter: time as a family, health & safety, playtime, time outdoors, time to make memories, time with my close friends.
Becoming a mom put my life into perspective – and 2020 has solidified that. So many things are not worth my time. For real. If someone was a “friend” who has moved more to an acquaintance, I just don’t have time to spend on that person. Same thing for moms who judge or shame – no time for that. I resolved at the start of this year to spend my time and energy in ways that improve my life, not in ways that waste it. I think that seeing how time is fleeting – raising a child makes that so clear – proved to me that I’m not going to do things I don’t want to do.
So basically there’s no easy answer to “what it is like being a mom.” It’s complicated and different for everyone! But I’m here to share that being a mom is awesome and I love every day. I truly haven’t been happier – and I know my husband feels the same. Our life is so full and we are so lucky.
